The Problem with Fantasy

STF AdminAwareness, Freedom, Healthy Sexuality, Relationships1 Comment

By: Brad Pullan I’m convinced that spending time sexually fantasizing about people (who aren’t your partner/spouse) is very harmful.   Before going further I want to make it clear that I am NOT addressing married couples desiring and thinking about each other. While there are both healthy and unhealthy ways of thinking about your spouse, for the purpose of this … Read More

The Parent Trap: Inadvertently Reinforcing Shame

STF AdminChildren, Community, Freedom, Healthy Sexuality, Relationships1 Comment

By Marilyn Evans: I’ve been thinking a lot about shame lately. And how it’s such a BIG obstacle for kids striving to let go of the compulsive habit to use porn. Shame floods the mind with negative thoughts and self-doubt. —”I’m no-good, I’m unlovable, I’m worthless, I’m stupid…” the list goes on. To meet our young people in their crisis, … Read More

Invisible Chains

Josh GilmanAwareness, Freedom, Healthy Sexuality, Men, UncategorizedLeave a Comment

By Guest Author I became active in discussing the harms of pornography after completing my Masters thesis on drug use. It struck me when over and over again in focus groups and interviews people, often men, we would talk about sex addiction. As a young man at the time, I laughed this off. Aren’t all young men addicted to sex, … Read More

The Lonely Legacy Of Hugh Hefner: The Playboy Who Didn’t Learn How To Tango

Josh GilmanCulture, Healthy Sexuality, Musings, Sexual Revolution2 Comments

By Josh Gilman: The top trending story around the world this morning was the death of the founder of Playboy, Hugh Hefner. The death of every human is a sad day, but unfortunately today’s memorials to the man who made pornography so mainstream he nearly put himself out of business, are in their very adulation a condemnation of his life’s … Read More

Why I choose pain over porn

STF AdminFreedom, Healthy Sexuality1 Comment

By Josh Gilman: When I first heard that pornography was like a drug, I had no problem believing it; the way I used it was exactly like a drug. Pornography was my emotional stabilizer. The numbing effect of the chemicals it released into my brain were how I tried to control the roller coaster of emotions of being a teenager. … Read More